We are FWB but I want more – What do I do?
As I explained to Julie, throughout my entire career as a coach, people contact me because one day they woke up and realized that they want more than just a fwb relationship, and they try to change everything without taking certain rules of seduction into consideration.
From now on, you’ve got to remain aware of this aspect and remain in control of your emotions. However fun your friends with benefits relationship might be right now, it can’t last forever. You’ll need to picture the next part of your story or at least, worst case scenario, control your emotions so that you don’t cave one day and become attached to the other person. If not, you risk hurting yourself or your friend.
Human beings are always attracted to things that do not already belong to them and if you stop presenting a minor challenge or if you don’t maintain enough independence, well, you’re going to have a hard time making him or her want to invest in a real relationship
Julie was completely lost because she loved her freedom, but she was becoming incredibly attached to a man. In the end, she would have liked to feel that she was in a more stable relationship. However, she was the one who set the rules in the beginning and she was worried about his reaction to her wanting to change the type of relationship that they had.
As you can see, she was being very indecisive and it could be seen in her attitude regarding her “f* buddy” (pardon my French…) With the help of my guidance, she was able to communicate to her part time lover that she was acting the way she was simply because she would like more. In the end, he needed a bit of space but after a short period of time, they ended up establishing a more serious relationship.
I assume that the majority of people reading this article have this question on their minds. Going from a purely sexual connection to having full-fledged feelings is relatively simple… It’s true, you know this person better than anyone, you’ve experienced intense moments together (and I’m not just talking about bed), and fwb relationships tend to favor letting go and focusing on having fun together.
Basically, in this type of situation you’ve got all the ingredients you need to make you fall in love. Unfortunately, this often ends up being one-sided. However, armed with the tools you’re about to learn, we’re going to make sure you avoid falling into this trap.
The first rule for going from sex buddy to partner
The first thing I have to tell you is this: there is nothing worse than prematurely admitting your intentions or your feelings to the person in question!
This is often the part that causes a problem because you’re trying to go from being friends with benefits to having something much more solid and stable. You have such strong feelings for this person, and you think that since you’re experiencing magical moments together it would be foolish to not take it to the next level. And this is how you begin giving them your undivided attention, doting on them, and showing jealous behavior.
Unfortunately, your partner might not want to take things to the next level at this stage and when you stop presenting a challenge, the excitement will be lost! SO many people experience this, but don’t worry, it is possible to make things evolve in a way that is much more favorable verkkosivusto täällГ¤ to your goal. So, if you want to make the switch from being a friend with benefits to dating and building something long lasting and fulfilling, I encourage you to hide your intentions.