Anymore than 2 dates whilst dating other people means that someone’s time and money is being wasted
Personally I think 2 dates should be enough to know if a person is going to be worth continuing to see.
So you think anything more then 2 dates if a waste of time. but making a quick decision after only 2 dates can easily mean that 2-6 months into it you regret your decision and thats a huge waste of time and will mean someone will get hurt.
For most people, dating multiple people is a prelude to exclusivity with one person
Also 2 dates is a very short amount of time, most people are not at the point where you can make a long term commitment when you’ve only been on two dates.
But sure, you can spend 2-6 months with each new girl you meet if you think potentially spending years dating is your thing. the alternative is just spending a little longer meeting new girls.
Exclusivity isn’t a thing until you both discuss it and both agree to go down that path. Sleeping with someone does not automatically imply exclusivity.
It’s good for your health too! As long as most people do it, it should be common knowledge that your dating partners are doing it too. I have clearly become prudish mer after having settled down with the missus for almost 10 years.
On second thought I’d say it’s best to sleep with as many of your dating partners as possible, a good number of times as it’s part of the ‘getting to know you’ process
So I am single and started dating again recently. My question can you date multiple people if none of the pairings have discussed exclusivity (and say you have had less than 4-5 dates)? Or do people tend to date one at a time?
From what I have seen, if you want to date multiple people and don’t discuss it with them, you quickly find yourself without any dates when they find out.
If you don’t want to be exclusive with your dates then just tell them that up front. Most will blow you off but you will eventually find some who will be quite happy just to date you and not worry about wondering if you are seeing someone else because they know you will be.
The unspoken assumption by most who have posted to this thread is that dating is a prelude to finding a partner, getting married, having children and buying a Labrador.
On second thought I’d say it’s best to sleep with as many of your dating partners as possible, a good number of times as it’s part of the ‘getting to know you’ process, and pretty important to know if you will ‘hit it off’ in bed
What if, like me, you’ve already done the marriage and children thing and have *no* intention of doing it again?
Mind you. I have neither the inclination nor energy to date more than one woman at a time. usually 🙂
From what I have seen, if you want to date multiple people and don’t discuss it with them, you quickly find yourself without any dates when they find out.
You are giving out some horrible advice, you are suggesting telling your dates that you don’t want to be exclusive early in the dating phase? wow, they probably won’t see you again simply because they will think you are crazy.
On second thought I’d say it’s best to sleep with as many of your dating partners as possible, a good number of times as it’s part of the ‘getting to know you’ process, and pretty important to know if you will ‘hit it off’ in bed
What if, like me, you’ve already done the marriage and children thing and have *no* intention of doing it again?